Most communities offer some type of bereavement or grieving support group. It may be organized through a local hospital, church or hospital. Some mourners form their own group. They typically meet once a week or once a month, for an hour or two. They are usually free.
The purpose of such groups is to provide support, comfort, understanding, and suggestions on how to cope. They can also provide access to other resources - helpful books, recommendations for private counseling, etc.
I know I need help. I am struggling and my existing coping skills are not working. So I am attending a bereavement support group held at a local hospital. Another widow recommended it to me. She said it really helped her survive in the early months after a traumatic loss.
The one I am attending is 90% women. Their circumstances vary - some have lost a parent, others a child, spouse or sibling. Some experienced a loss weeks or months ago. for others it has been years. They decided to attend after realizing they never really grieved (maybe because they didn't have time or were in denial), and it has come back to bite them.
In one meeting, the leader had us all write down three things about the person we lost. I think it was no coincidence that many of us wrote that the person was "loving." Maybe that's why we need help - because we lost that.
You may be busy or find it hard to get motivated to find and attend something like this. Consider taking the time to do it for yourself. It will be worth it if you can just take one thing away from it that helps. Give it a try - what do you have to lose?
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